Sometimes dieters fear what their lives will be like once they lose a lot of weight, and have thoughts like, “I’m afraid I won’t know who I am after losing so much weight.” If this comes up for you, remind yourself, “It’s true, things will look and feel very differently. It may require some renegotiation on my part to figure out where I fit in, and renegotiations with others to figure out our relationships, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be done.  It’s better than the alternative of staying overweight and continuing to be stuck in an unhappy and unhealthy place.”